Hello, my blog family.

If you’ve been following my journey for a while, you know that I usually try to keep things short and sweet. I value your time, and I never want to “bore” you with endless walls of text. I like to get straight to the heart of the matter. But today is different. Today, I need to take a little more space to talk about something that has been weighing heavy on my heart and swirling in my mind for a long time.

This post is deeply personal. It’s about a lesson I am still in the middle of learning, one that involves the difficult, quiet work of keeping things to myself. We’re talking about The Power of the Unsaid and why I’ve come to realize that privacy isn’t just about keeping secrets; it’s the ultimate form of self-respect.

The Trap of High-Energy Oversharing

I’ll be the first to admit: I am an oversharer by nature. When I get excited about a new project, a fresh idea, or a shift in my life, I get “high” on that excitement. It’s a beautiful energy, but it’s also a vulnerable one. In those moments of joy, I want to shout from the rooftops. I want to bring everyone into the room with me.

I’ve always operated under the assumption that if I am open and honest, others will meet me with that same level of transparency. I tend to expect people to be as open-minded as I am. I want to believe that everyone sees the world through a lens of possibility. But one of the hardest truths I’ve had to swallow is this: Everyone is not me. Not everyone has the capacity to hold your “big” ideas. Not everyone has the emotional maturity to handle your evolution. When I overshare in a state of excitement, I am essentially handing the keys to my joy to someone else before I’ve even moved into the house. And to be honest? That has almost never worked out in my favor.

The Reality of “Wrong Ears”

Starting this week, I made a solemn promise to myself: I will limit what I share. I know that might sound like a “bummer” to some. We live in a world that tells us to post every meal, every thought, and every milestone. But here is the reality I’ve discovered: sometimes, we are speaking to the wrong ears.

When you are trying to do something different, when you are thinking outside the box and working to change the narrative of your life, you are in a fragile state of creation. During this phase, you need protection, not just “feedback.”

The truth is that not everyone who smiles at you is rooting for you. Some people pretend to be happy for your progress, but subconsciously, they are uncomfortable with your growth. Your movement reminds them of their own stillness. Your courage highlights their own fears.

Projecting Insecurity

When we share our dreams with people who haven’t done the inner work, they don’t see our potential; they see their own limitations. They begin to project their insecurities and their “what-ifs” onto us.

• “Are you sure you want to do that?”
• “Isn’t that risky?”
• “Maybe you should play it safe.”

They try to dictate your path based on the boundaries of their own comfort zone. Even worse, some may quietly hope for your “lesson” (which is just a nice word for failure) so they can feel better about not trying themselves. This energy is heavy. It’s toxic. And it’s not healthy for anyone to go through when they are trying to build a better life.

The Art of Discernment

We have to be mindful. We have to use discernment. Discernment is that quiet voice in your gut that says, “This person hasn’t earned the right to hear this story yet.” Privacy is a boundary that says, “When we share our dreams with people who haven’t done the inner work, they don’t see our potential; they see their own limitations. They begin to project their insecurities and their “what-ifs” onto us.” It is the act of keeping your seeds underground until they are strong enough to withstand the wind. If you dig them up every day to show people how they’re growing, they will eventually wither.

I am learning that there is a sacred power in the unsaid. When you keep your plans to yourself, you keep the energy for those plans inside you. You use that fuel to actually do the work rather than just talking about the work.

Choosing Self-Respect Over Validation

Choosing privacy is an act of self-respect because it proves that you don’t need external validation to know that your path is right. You don’t need a “like,” a “good job,” or a “bless your heart” from someone else to justify your choices.

I am still learning. I still feel that urge to overshare when the excitement hits. But I am practicing the pause. I am learning to sit with my joy, to let it marinate, and to protect it like the treasure it is.

To my blog family: I encourage you to look at your own circles. Who are you giving your “pearls” to? Does everyone deserve a front-row seat to your transformation?

Some things are meant to be handled between you and the Divine. Some dreams are meant to stay in the “incubation” phase until they are ready to fly. Remember, silence isn’t a loss of voice; it’s a gain of power.

Let’s start honoring ourselves enough to keep some things unsaid.

Lakisha Childs-Morris